Grandma Burn

My high school reestablished a speech and drama group when I was a sophomore. Members of this group participated in speech meets around the area and a theatrical production held in the spring. I usually participated in poetry competitions at speech meets. I didn’t write my own, though I could have if I desired. Instead, I memorized a poem and performed it. One time, I recited a combination of Richard Cory and A Dream Deferred. I loved the two sounds and stories the poems told together. In my senior year, I performed The Congo by Vachel Lindsay at the Osage Speech Tournament in 1999. I had seen this piece presented before and I loved the rhythm of the poem. It allowed for soft tones and loud, powerful booms. I placed second in poetry at that tournament with The Congo. I was excited because I was the first and only person to trophy at any speech meet in high school.

My mom and stepfather were in St. Louis that weekend, so I knew no one would be home to share my joy. I stopped at my grandma’s on the way home. Her house was at one end of the hollow and mine was at the other. I had to drive right past her house to go home. I knew she would be home and I could share my triumph.

I burst through her front door (no one knocked at grandma’s), trophy in hand, and exclaimed, “Grandma! I won second in poetry at the speech meet!”

Without skipping a beat or batting an eye, she asked, “What, were you the only one competing?”

In my excitement, I received a Grandma Burn from my 80-year-old grandmother.

I told her I was going home where people would be excited for me, knowing full well the only beings at home were our outdoor cats.

I can still vividly see her sitting at her desk in the family room, wearing pink sweats and reading glasses, working on her checkbook when she delivered that deflating line. I am not sure I closed the door when I burst in with the news. I know I didn’t stay for long after that welcome.

Photos of my grandma in 2007, 2008 (at her 90th birthday party), and 2013.

I knew she didn’t mean it and it didn’t hurt. Well, not much anyway. My grandma had a binder of newspaper clippings of every article printed about me in the county paper – every time I was listed on the honor roll, every recognition I received for volunteer service, camps attended, etc. She was proud of me. This is how my family operates. If they give you a hard time, they love you. If they are always nice to you, they don’t like you. We are a twisted bunch.

This event happened one April evening in 1999. My grandma died in 2014, just one month shy of her 96th birthday. I will tell this story for as long as I am able. It’s the best grandma burn I have heard to date. It’s also a representation of the pride and love my grandma had for me. She wouldn’t have wasted a great line on someone she didn’t love. I smile every time I share this story with others. It’s a way I share a piece of her with others who didn’t know her. It highlights her humor and wit. I am so thankful for this memory of her.

P.S. She kept a clipping of the newspaper article that announced my second place in poetry at the tournament.